"Doing nothing and saying nothing nicely." - Unknown
Diplomacy is a bit more difficult to define. The following is a list of quotes describing diplomacy:
- "Diplomacy is thinking twice before saying nothing." - Unknown
- "Diplomacy is the art of letting someone have your way." - Daniele Vare
- "There are people who can do all fine and heroic things but one: keep from telling their happiness to the unhappy." - Mark Twain
- "Be polite: write diplomatically; even in a declaration of war one observes the rules of politeness." - Otto von Bismarck
To be a diplomat, one must possess many different charismatic manners, leadership skills and more specific skills including: tact, listening, sensitivity, positive body language, and politeness. One must also pause and reflect. One must listen and be able to arbitrate a mutually acceptable solution to the problem at hand, accept the result, and move on to solve the next challenge. One must remain non-confrontational, yet quietly strong and competent.
One must also have a sense of humor, but humor is tricky. Humor does not always translate well, especially internationally. Self-deprecating humor is usually the best type of humor to show because you risk offending no one but yourself!
Also, sometimes not talking or not answering is just as important as talking and answering. What is unspoken and unwritten is sometimes just as important as what is spoken and written.
Whether one is negotiating an international treaty or negotiating nap time with your Mother, calm, steady, polite demeanor combined with a peace of heart wins out in the long run every time.