As a young person, you may see your Mother smile and hear her say hello and continue polite small talk with a woman at the supermarket you know she dislikes. Your Mother tells you this is OK as she does not want to hurt this woman's feelings or have this woman realize she is not liked. You also notice your Uncle Chester says he feels fine when you know he has been sick lately. Your Mother tells you this is OK too as Uncle Chester does not want anyone to know he has been feeling poorly.
Then, you grow up. So, then what? OK, lets recap: Tell the truth but never make anyone else feel bad, embarrass them or let them know your true feelings if it will hurt their feelings. Wait a minute, what about the truth? What happened to telling the truth? Truly, what is the truth?
To help you decipher the truth here are some famous and not so famous quotes:
- "If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain
- You never find yourself until you face the truth." - Pearl Bailey
- Unthinking respect for authority is the greatest enemy of truth." - Albert Einstein
- The truth is rarely pure and never simple." - Oscar Wilde
- "The truth shall make you free." - Jesus, The Bible, John 8:32
- "Love truth, and pardon error." - Voltaire
- "I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain
- "To thine own self be true." - Shakespeare
- "Half of a comment spoken in jest is thought to be a truth by the speaker." - unknown
- "Telling the truth does not make it the right answer."- Katherine Barrett Baker
So, be true to yourself without making anyone else feel bad. It is the greatest balancing act ever and forever on end. If you can accomplish this feat every day, you will probably become a diplomat. What is the definition of a diplomat? One of the definitions of a diplomat is: "Doing nothing and saying nothing nicely." Ruugh Roough...here we go again!